I have been crazy busy in these past weeks, so I apologize for the lack of posts. I am back on my A game now! Last weekend I met up with a new friend I had made on vacation earlier this year. She lives in Boston and came up for the weekend. We did some catching up and girl talk, and she asked how we I was doing. When I met her, I was single and now I have been back with my boyfriend for 7 months. She was incredibly happy for me and says it looks like we are doing well. I remember in the airport on my way to Mexico, I had my best friend delete all the evidence of me and Phil from my Instagram. That was so hard for me, I was still hurting but wanted to start new and the pictures were memories I couldn’t bare to look at. Going into this vacation, I finally wanted to relax and feel good again.
When Phil and I broke up, I was devastated but the first thing I did was delete the Instagram app from my phone. I had Facebook but was never one to go on that often. I am someone who keeps her personal matters private; I will never broadcast my every move especially a break up. I see some of these people post “Subliminal” post or the second they are single change their status on Facebook. I am not one to draw attention like that, it’s no one’s business but my own and who I choose to share with. With that being said, I was sad so I knew seeing other people happy, would make me feel worse. I am nowhere near a hater but I know that at that moment I was so upset seeing anything lovey it would pain me. I also went through a break up right smack in the middle of the holidays! All those adorable cute pics of the couples kissing under the Christmas tree, might have forced me to eat a full tray of brownies (instead of the 4 I ate) and cry alone watching Sex and The City. I just needed a break to feel sad and let all the crying out and be in my own thoughts.
I decided to take a social media “Time Out,” which is the best thing I did. One of the reasons we spend so much time on our phones is to be on social media. We look at it first thing in the morning when we wake up, during work, during our lunch break, when we are in the bathroom (yes everyone does this), when we are out with our friends, during meals and of course right before bed. We constantly want to know what is going on with every one else’s life. We also need to snap everything that’s going on all day, from eating breakfast, to endless seflies, and making stupid videos to show what we are doing in that exact moment. Everyone has at least the main four social media outlets: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and now SnapChat. Don’t even get me started with Tinder and whatever other dating’s apps are out there, I never used them but know all about them from friends. When we start to watch what goes on in our “Friends” lives we can’t help but compare ourselves. We have over 300 plus “Friends” on Instagram or Facebook imagine how many different lives people have, and guess what someone is always going to have it better and someone is always going to have it worse then you. What I realized is that people love to put on a show of how amazing their lives are and only broadcast the highs and never the lows. Yes I do want to see my friends do well and be happy, but Do I care about the random person I know through a friend of a friend and never actually met? I really don’t. So when I start to see myself get worked up and feel like people are moving faster than me, I put myself in time out.
I have such a good life, a great one in fact, and I need to realize that more. I need to be more grateful and appreciative. I also need to know if there is something I am not happy about, I don’t hate someone else for having it, I need to fix it myself. I need to see that person as my motivation to do better. I like my time outs though; it makes me enjoy the day more and my company more too. I love not staring at a screen that hurts my eyes and just relaxing reading a book or going for a walk with my friends and my dog. Our life is short and passes by so quick, Do you want to be the person who spent it on social media all the time, or actually live your life?
Now there are benefits of social media. We use social media to connect with people you don’t see every day or family that lives far away. Now you can use it to start your own business. I like to search my social media to look for new places to travel, or the latest fashion trends. The number 1 reason is to promote my blog and my boyfriend’s clothing line. You can use social media to your advantage but remember its okay to take breaks as well. Just like anything in life, too much could cause harm. I still post on Instagram and Facebook, but lately I have changed my time on it. Instead of being on it all day I limit myself to a half hour here and there. My boyfriend and I are guilty just like any other couple who are always on our phone, but now we call each other out on it and both agree okay let’s put them down and watch a movie. I eventually want to have dates where we don’t use our phones, I know sounds crazy!!! I like when we just sit and talk to each other about anything and everything and no text or phone call from a friend throws us off. The best thing when you put yourself on a social media time out it’s at your own discretion, however long or short you want it. You can do a day, a week, a month, or even just a few hours. I encourage you to try, and tell me how you feel after it! I promise you will feel so refreshed and focused again.