Today marks a very special day in my heart, it is me and my significant others two year anniversary. Just like the quote says “Every love story is beautiful, but ours is my favorite” I love our story the best. A little background info on us, we were actually neighbors when were babies! 22 years later we actually got together, if that isn’t fate I don’t know what is! Our families were close on the block, and my brother and my boyfriend actually played little league baseball together. His dad even coached the team and they won a championship! During my high school years, my best friend in high school lived on his block and brought me back around (small world). She told me how good looking her neighbor was, and like any giddy high school girl, we used to sit outside and hope to catch a glimpse of him so we can have googley eyes over him. He was a very mysterious guy, and kept to himself. We used to joke around and swear he only dated “models.” Through the years we would see each other in passing, and exchange hellos but that was it. We both had our own significant others. I couldn’t help but always get butterflies when I ever I saw him, and a big cheesy smile. Finally about 2 and half years ago we crossed paths and both were single. When he asked my friend for me to contact him, I was in utter shock!I was always a confident girl, but to me he was on another level! We started talking and hit it off right away. He even jokes and says ” I knew I was going to marry you from the very first date.” We became inseparable, and I was on cloud nine.
We celebrated our birthdays together on vacation and the holidays were amazing.
Our first year anniversary came so fast and I cant believe we made it, still felt like I was dreaming.
Going into those fall, winter months I started to notice a change in both of us. When we met I was in college still working two jobs at the time, he works in a job that has crazy hours, and he was studying also. Going into the fall I got my first big girl job in NYC and he was working more then ever and also studying. We both had a lot of pressure on us. I noticed the pressure started to get to us. We would argue more frequent and our communication was totally off. Every one knows how important communication is in relationships, if it’s off the fights will come rolling in. Around the holidays I remember confiding in my friend how unhappy we both were, and how can i fix it?? She told me I needed to give him space. I said space?!?!? Are you crazy girl??, that’s the last thing we need. I took her advice, everything else I was doing wasn’t working so I gave him the option and guess what?? He took it! I was devastated, I didn’t leave my house for 3 days nor tell anyone. I stayed in that weekend and cried. We also decided to go cold turkey with the break, no communication whatsoever!! You know how hard that is for a girl!! Meanwhile this was all taking place during the holiday season, double whammy! I failed to realize that I was putting so much stress on my boyfriend and our future and not realizing we were on two totally different pages. He was still getting his stuff together for his future career, and I already started one. We both weren’t treating each other right, and needed to take step back, breathe, analyze the situation, and grow. Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s all came and went, not a word. I was so upset but was trying to be strong. My friends were amazed how well I was taking it and admired me. Deep down inside I felt torn apart my other half was missing. During this time my friends were amazing, they really stepped up to the plate to be with me any time they could. If you are reading this and going through a break up, make sure you have an awesome support system it makes a difference. I am also not one to put my private life on social media, I don’t need a pity party and I am not a spiteful person. With that being said, it was hard to run into people and they would ask hows Phil, it literally brought a sharp pain to my chest. I would usually just make up a lie and smile. I wasn’t ready to really believe we were over. Like most men, my boyfriend is very strong and a little stubborn (aren’t we all) and I knew I was never going to hear from him. I had to respect his wishes though for his space. During this hard time in my life, I did a lot of soul searching, I attend church every Sunday as per usual and still prayed for him, I also would look up positive quotes and blogs to get me through the day.
I was angry but something inside me kept telling me to pray. My mom saw how devastated I was the most, I cried to her most mornings and she would be right there to lift me up. She shared a similar story of how my father broke off the wedding a week before and she was to get married, and she was devastated so she knew my pain. They ended up getting back together and are happily married 36 years now God Bless! She told me don’t lose faith and trust God. One of my sleepless night (I had many, I developed IBS from all the stress) I prayed to God that I missed him and I hope he misses me too, and if we were meant to be you will bring us back together. My best friend was also going through a break up so we decided to pack our bags and head to Mexico for some healing time. A vacation is a great thing to do during a break up. I was finally able to start relaxing and sleep through the night, and enjoy the girl time.
The second to last night, My boyfriend actually reached out to me so unexpectedly what a miracle! In that moment, I thanked God right away. When I came home, we met up and we both decided to give it another try. Both of us gleaming and hugging, in that moment I knew he was the one. Fast forward 7 months and we are know celebrating our 2 year anniversary! We only broke up for 2 months (it felt like years) so we kept our date. We haven’t been happier! If its even possible I am more in love with him now then ever. We both are on the same page now, and no we aren’t perfect, we still bicker but now we settle it right away.
A break/ or break up is a positive thing! Yes, I actually said the word POSITIVE, you didn’t miss read that. We learned so much in that time apart, and felt the pain of actually not being together. This break made us stronger then ever. If someone asks you for a break even though its hard, give the space to take a breather. Relationships are work but the outcome is so worth it! Not all cases end the same, if you break up with someone and they don’t come back it’s still a positive thing. You have now freed yourself to let your soulmate find you and have real love. To many people settle in life, and love shouldn’t be one of them! Many people rather be unhappy then be alone or they are in denial, but I can tell you, you are only in hurting yourself. ” People treat you how you allow them to treat you.” I live by this quote so its up to you to make change, as hard as it was for me I am so happy I let the break happen. Best thing to ever happen to me, and all that pain I went through I can’t even remember anymore.
A Special thank you to the man I love:
Thank you Phil, for being by my side through everything. Thank you for being your caring, smart, loving, hard working, humble self. Thank you for believing in me and in us. Thank you for believing in my dreams, and helping me take steps to live my dream life. Thank you for loving me the way you do, and making me feel safe. Thank you for these past 2 years even though we had our ups and downs, we came out on top again. I pray that God continues to bless you and us and we will continue to grow together and make each other happy. I couldn’t ask for a better partner in life, or a better looking one ;)! Cheers to 2 years down and many more years to go! I love you always and treasure you forever. Love always~ Erica