Ever heard the term, “Fake it till you make it?” Recently I have been really thinking about this quote. Faking it actually gives you the confidence you need to believe you are following your dream. I touched upon dreams, fears and positive thinking in my last sanctuary Sunday, so this is a follow up. As I explore new possible business ventures, I have seen the negativity come out of the wood works. So many people question what I am doing, and when I tell them I plan to be a blogger full time, some give such a delusional look or comment. Most people don’t know about blogging, heck I didn’t even know about it until I met someone who did it. As I researched this new found obsession, I have found a large number of people are full time bloggers and the possibilities are endless. There is money to be made and it is a growing community. I always knew I was a good writer ever since my high school/ college days. I would write papers and give speeches and no lie, leave people in tears. My words would touch them in such a positive, emotional way. I never wanted to write a book, probably because my grammar isn’t the best and I like to talk about different topics all the time. Blogging seems to be a perfect fit for me.
Our generation has been known to be one of the largest groups of Entrepreneur’s. With social media being such a big part of our lives, there are so many ways to work and do what you love and be your own boss. If you like make up, you can be a makeup vlogger (youtube tutorials), or a baking vlogger. You can be a blogger, you can make an app, you can be a designer, etc.. That is great news for our so called “lazy” generation. We found a more convenient way to work and still have a life. We can still enjoy our lives but be able to make a salary to pay the bills. If you work from a computer you can work from anywhere, even a hammock under a palm tree in Puerto Rico. (My dream work environment)
Of course, the con of this new found social media, the hate and the shade. People are nosey enough to see what you are up to, but will be the first to shoot you down (yes even some of your “friends.”)With your life being on display it’s just as easy to get negative vibes. People will question your goals even laugh at them, like they are unreachable. This is so important to tend to, you need to cut those people out of your life and surround yourself with positive vibes. Negative thinking is so harmful and works in seconds. With social media being ingrained in our life, we need to send out more positive vibes. Why is that people find it so satisfying to tear you down?
What people don’t understand they mock, remember that. Some of the most negative people can be in your inner circle. So pay close attention to how people react when you confide your dreams in them. I am a firm believer in you reap what you sow. What you put out it was you get in return. You work hard you get success.
I have mentioned before how my boyfriend (Phil) is my biggest supporter. This is also important for anyone who is in a relationship, make sure you significant other is uplifting you. Even in relationships your partner can be jealous and not want you to succeed. This weekend I had to convince my boyfriend to try rock climbing. He wasn’t all about it first, but after we left he couldn’t thank make me enough for making him go. In this silly fun date night, we both realized how positive thinking works. What looked so easy wasn’t as it appeared. There were 5 different walls to climb, and one of them was too hard for me to get to the top. I am competitive by nature so in these occasions I need to cross the finish line. Phil did this wall with ease, and I was so determined to reach the top like he did. Although I didn’t get to the top, I went at this wall for like 30 minutes straight and each time, Phil was right there speaking encouragement that I can do it. Even after I was too tired to try again, he told me how proud he was that I kept going back at it, and didn’t stop. He made me feel good just by the positive vibes, he was giving me. I am so thankful for him and that he lifts me up and is right by my side through my journey. This exercise was like a metaphor for my life. Those rocks are like negativity in my life and trying to knock me down. I saw all the negativity as stepping stones to reach the top. Even though I kept falling off, I would get right back up. I will return with my boyfriend to make it up that wall! It has now become one of my goals to accomplish!
Here are some tips to help you stay positive in a world full of negativity:
1) Believe in yourself
2) Have a positive support group (surround yourself with people who believe in you and uplift you)
3) Weed out all the negative people in your life (this can also be people who complain a lot and only have a negative point of view )
***Side note: I realized the more people complained around me, I started to complain too. Negative thinking spreads like wild fire. Maybe they aren’t hating on you are throwing shade your way, but they are making you think in a negative light. That’s how they see the world & you start to see it the same way. Distance yourself fast!
4) Being thankful- Be happy for your positive energy (most people don’t think this way) be thankful for your journey and how far you come. Be thankful for having courage to take the leap most people don’t. Be thankful for your gift as well, without it you wouldn’t be able to make your dream possible.
5) Always be open to learning new things and constructive criticism. This will only help you better yourself.
6) Say Daily affirmations in the mirror every morning, to get your brain thinking on a positive track bright & early (yes this really works)
A quote from Charles Swindoll on Attiudes:
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftdedness, or skill. It will make or break a company…a church.. a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change out past..we cannot change the fact that people will act a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so its with you- we are in charge of our ATTITUDES!”